I think the worst feeling in the world is being broken down by another human being. Having someone tell you that you are stupid, you’re not good enough, you’re crazy and you’re worthless will eventually make you believe it yourself.

If you are in a situation where someone is breaking you down, I hope you will find the strength to leave. Leaving a relationship isn’t always easy, but it was the best decision I have made for myself. However, leaving didn’t immediately solve all of my problems. Learning how to build yourself back up after being broken down takes time and a lot of strength, but it can be done!

Here are some ways that I built myself back up and learned to love myself and life again.


I cannot express how important this is! I did counseling for at least a year after my relationship ended. It wasn’t pretty. I cried A LOT. I hated life and I hated myself, but over time I started to feel differently.

Talking out your fears, worries and your feelings really does help. It made me feel like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders.

My doctor also prescribed medication to me because I was clinically depressed, but medication isn’t always the right option for everyone. Medication is something you and your doctor have to discuss and decide together.

If counseling isn’t an option for you, please try to find someone to talk to. I have made a lot of friends on Twitter and Instagram and even talking to them helps!

Surround yourself with positive people who love you


I’m finally at a point in my life where I won’t tolerate anyone who negatively impacts my life. I’ve learned over the last couple of years that life is way too short to let people hurt you and make you feel like you aren’t lovable.

I went through a horrible depression, but I forced myself to be around people that made me feel better about myself. I’m a bit of an introvert, so I don’t have a lot of friends that I can spend time with in person, but I do have some family that I love and am really close to. My family has been a huge help during this process. I’m not sure if I could have come this far without them.

Choose to be happy


It is so easy to lay in bed and feel sorry for yourself. I’ve been there and done that. It accomplished nothing. Over time, I realized that I deserve to be happy. Once I realized that I took charge of my life. I’m not happy 100% of the time, but I don’t let myself be sad all the time either.

In my past relationship, I felt like I didn’t deserve happiness. It’s something that I can’t really explain, but that’s how I felt. Counseling helped me realize that wasn’t the case. I did deserve to be happy, so I chose to do so.



Self-love is so important! For the longest time, I hated myself. I didn’t take care of myself as I should have and it took a toll on me. One day I decided to do something crazy, and I colored my hair red and I got new clothes, and basically did a complete makeover! I learned that it does feel good to love myself and now self-love is something I practice daily…because I’M WORTH IT.

Do something you are passionate about


I am passionate about reading, so I decided to start a book and lifestyle blog. This has been such a blessing for me! I get to share my love of reading with the world, and I have met some amazing people on this beautiful journey. Blogging gives me a sense of purpose and it’s something I get really excited about doing.

Find something that makes you feel the same way!

I hope this post is an inspiration to those who read it. If you are feeling broken down, know that you are not alone. I hope you find the strength to leave whoever is making you feel that way and you are able to find happiness yourself.

What are some things you have done to help build yourself back up?

I would love to hear from you guys, so feel free to comment below!



4 Replies to “How to build yourself back up…after you’ve been broken down.”

  1. I totally agree with you. Being broken hearted is so hard to deal especially going through it alone. That’s why I love spending my time with my family and get through it until time heals. Doing things that make me happy is something that I love to do too, especially it also an escape for me to ignore the thoughts of that someone. Thank you so much for you shared! Love it so much <3

    1. Spending time with my family is my favorite thing! It’s nice being around people that will support and love you no matter what 🙂

  2. This is such a positive, inspiring, uplifting post! It can be hard to pick yourself up but I find spending time with the people I love helps loads! x

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